My Story

I remember, during a teaching assignment, a little boy with special needs saying, “Your breath stinks.” It was after a lunch of tuna, and he had called me over to help him with his math problems. I was leaning over him as we were both looking at his problems when he made this statement. He then went right back to working on his math. The innocence of it struck me. His statement held no judgment or shaming, just a simple fact.  

Coaching is like that in many ways: simply being a reporter of what one is saying, hoping, wanting, planning etc.; not pushing or judging but commenting accurately about the progress or lack of it. Obviously, one of the hardest things for us all is sticking to our own business and not the business of another.  As a coach, I am the space holder providing guidance for you to do what you know you want. I coach you in getting ready to make the shift. I am also a voice repeating boundaries of behaviors that assist you in achieving your goals. I know that I am holding a space for you because you will have given me your permission. Ultimately, you will experience the transformation, not me. I provide the space for the movement, but the movement is not mine. It comes, or it doesn’t come from you. Like the little boy, I report what I smell, I do not judge the right or wrong, I stick to my business and thereby act as a container for your work, the work you will do. 

As a woman who has cared for husbands who died early, and my mother who suffered from Alzheimer’s, I have had to learn the hard lessons of dealing with what is in front of me in the moment.  

Having written Resource Guides for Alameda and San Francisco counties in California, I am resource rich. My knowledge can add valuable tools to assist you in reaching your goals.

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